The unreasonable person is a part of a quote I read in How to Solve Your People Problems, and I’m pondering it with you today.

For Lent 2025, I’ll be writing new blog posts every day. I’m writing for just five unedited minutes on a quote of the day to deepen our faith in this Lenten season.

Day 38 of Lent 2025 – April 11

I first read How to Solve Your People Problems when I was still in relationships with several difficult people. It gave me the validation, insight, and strength I needed to stand firm on my boundaries.

Today’s quote helped me see the “why” behind their behaviors. I knew their childhood stories of pain, and I knew none of them had fully healed and grown from the traumas they had faced. They hadn’t taken steps to grieve, own their part, and learn better skills. Seeing them as emotional infants helped me show compassion while also reinforcing my boundaries.

If you have an unreasonable person in your life, this quote can give you perspective. It can help you view them with empathy but also remind you to stand firm in your right to be treated as an adult. However, you may need more help to learn how to deal with them. The book is packed with practical advice from a Christian perspective, and I recommend it to you for the difficult relationship you’re facing today.

More quotes from How to Solve Your People Problems:

• In the Bible, they are called “fools” or “the wicked.”
• Unreasonable people have an aversion to personal wrongness that extends far beyond anything experienced by reasonable people. To them, being wrong presents a threat to survival that equals most physical threats. Unreasonable people put all of their energy into safeguarding rightness – to staying safe – and none into solving conflict problems.
• Most unreasonable people missed attending Good Conflict Camp, but they all attended Drama School, where they developed into thespians of the highest order
• The unreasonable person performs his drama for self-serving reasons – to maintain rightness and avoid wrongness.
• The best alternative to a flight reaction is also honest civil conversation. Tigers need to be more civil, while turtles need to converse more. We can be tigers, turtles, or talkers.
• Rehearsing our responses, anticipating button pushes, and knowing how we will respond ahead of time alters our behavior.
• The Cold War ended not because the U.S. was nice but because the U.S. was strong…We didn’t change their minds; we changed the conditions. And when the conditions changed, they changed their minds.

You’ll find much help and encouragement in How to Solve Your People Problems, which I encourage you to order HERE.

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