To start setting boundaries on negative behaviors, you must begin by setting them on yourself.
This truth surprised me when I read the Boundaries book that changed my life. The first half of the book is about recognizing that even if others are crossing your boundaries, you may be the worst boundary offender in your life. You must set boundaries against your own negative behaviors before you set them against the negative behaviors of others.
Today is a silent anniversary of a past marriage boundary. Three years ago, my husband packed his bags and left me with our three children. That horrible, scary night, we couldn’t see what we see now–boundaries sometimes produce a harvest of righteousness. My husband and I had been married for over 14 years when our separation … Read more
I recently conducted a reader survey, and one of the topics you want to learn about most is setting boundaries. Last week I wrote a devotion for Devotable, which I feel is a great introduction to this topic. Here’s a peek at the devotional: Good fences make good neighbors. I enjoyed reading that line in … Read more
Welcome to part three of my marriage series, titled How to Be a Loving Wife in a Difficult Marriage. I’m sharing four different ways to put love into action in a difficult marriage. Today’s topic is How to Set Loving Boundaries in a Difficult Marriage.
Today’s Five Minute Friday prompt is “Define.” I chose to combine it with my focus on the fruit of self-control.
Once I heard: Good fences make good neighbors.
Today I am setting stone walls
of self-control, walls to contain
my sprawling city, so prone
toward selfishness.
